It's Only Hair

How to Live, Find Joy and Let Go.

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Brenda Zara Tan, author of It's Only Hair

Hi! I’m Brenda.

Mother, caregiver, and author of a book-in-progress called It’s Only Hair, inspired by my daughter Myra, who battled stage 4 Burkitt’s Lymphoma at age six. When I offered to make her a wig during chemo, she simply said, “It’s only hair,” then skipped off – unbothered, unashamed, and full of joy. This space was born from the comfort I desperately needed back then. Now, I hope it brings light to anyone navigating life’s hardest moments – because Myra taught me that with the right mindset, even in the darkest times, joy is still possible

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  • A Tribute to a Mother Who Wasn’t My Mother

    A Tribute to a Mother Who Wasn’t My Mother

    The author reflects on their early childhood spent with a babysitter, whom they called Mama, instead of their affluent parents. Despite limited resources, Mama provided love, comfort, and valuable life lessons. Her nurturing presence shaped the author’s understanding of happiness, highlighting the profound impact of genuine affection over material wealth. Mama’s memory remains cherished.

  • On Writing and Imposter Syndrome

    I spent the longest time thinking that my writing was crap. Yet, I wrote anyway. As a tribute to my daughter who beat 4th stage cancer. And to prove something to myself. This week, a publisher told me she couldn’t stop reading the manuscipt. Turns out, what I thought was crap writing wasn’t that crap…

  • The HELPFUL Khairy Jamaluddin and the COVID-19 Immunisation Drive

    The HELPFUL Khairy Jamaluddin and the COVID-19 Immunisation Drive

    At the height of COVID-19, securing a vaccine for us to protect our immunocompromised child who was undergoing chemo seemed impossible. Here’s how Khairy Jamaluddin and team’s efficiency may have helped save my daughter’s life.

  • 4 Simple Truths about Eating Post-Chemo

    4 Simple Truths about Eating Post-Chemo

    When Myra was diagnosed, overwhelming information and unsolicited advice clouded the journey. Emphasizing that “fed is best,” the author highlights the importance of allowing patients to eat what they crave. Whole, natural foods, not expensive supplements, aid recovery, complemented by sunlight and joy. Focus on manageable truths amidst the chaos.

  • Something Good Must Come From This

    Something Good Must Come From This

    Myra, diagnosed with stage 4 Burkitt’s Lymphoma at six, exemplified resilience and joy during her battle with cancer. Now nearly 11 and in remission, she embraces life fully. Her journey underscores the power of mindset and inspired her mother to write a book sharing insights and experiences to help others facing similar challenges.